To first look or not to first look


THE PROS


There are a few major decision you need to make about your day before you can start formulating a timeline and get those invitations sent out.


Having a "first look" on your wedding day, where the bride and groom see each other before the ceremony, can be a deeply personal and emotional choice. Like many aspects of wedding planning, there are pros and cons to consider when deciding whether to have a first look:

Pros:

  1. Emotional Connection: Seeing each other before the ceremony can provide an intimate moment for the couple to connect emotionally and calm pre-wedding nerves. It can be a special, private moment that allows you to express your love and excitement.
  2. Time for Photos:  You save time by taking the bulk of your photos together before the ceremony. I would also highly recommend this if your wedding is in winter or autumn so you can make the most of the light. 
  3. Stress Reduction: A first look can help alleviate some of the anxiety that can come with the anticipation of the ceremony. Sharing this moment together can create a sense of calm and reassurance.
  4. Time with your Guests: By taking photos beforehand, you might have more time to enjoy your cocktail hour and reception with guests, rather than spending a lot of time on post-ceremony photos.
  5. Flexibility in Timeline: If your wedding day timeline is tight or has constraints, a first look can help ensure everything stays on schedule.
  6. Photo Locations:  If you have a photo location that is 20min or more from your venue it would be best to do a first look and the majority of your photos beforehand. You dont want to waste 40min travelling when you could be enjoying time with your guests.

THE CONS


  1. Tradition: Some couples prefer to adhere to tradition and see each other for the first time at the ceremony. If you have a strong attachment to this tradition, a first look may not be the right choice for you.
  2. Lost Element of Surprise: Seeing each other before the ceremony means you won't have that classic "aisle moment" where the groom sees the bride for the first time as she walks down the aisle. Some couples find this moment incredibly special and wouldn't want to miss it.
  3. Pressure to Perform: Knowing that all eyes are on you during the first look can create pressure to react a certain way or to have an emotional moment. It might not feel as organic or genuine if you're conscious of being observed.
  4. Logistics: Scheduling can be a challenge, especially if you have a tight wedding-day timeline or if the couple and the bridal party are getting ready in different locations. You often have shortened prep time and you have to start getting ready much earlier in the morning.
  5. Light: If you are having a summer wedding your first look often falls between 12-2pm which isn't ideal for lighting as it can be bright with harsh shadows which is often not very flattering.
  6. Hot & Dirty: If you think you might be precious about your dress a first look might not be for you. Quite often the hem of your dress will get dirty as it's just the nature of shooting on location. Your makeup will also sweat a little as we often shoot around the hottest part of the day and flowers may be limp by the time your ceremony comes around.


Ultimately, the decision to have a first look on your wedding day is a personal one. It's essential to discuss your preferences and priorities as a couple, and consider how it aligns with your wedding vision and logistical considerations. Whichever you choose, remember that both options can lead to beautiful and memorable wedding days.